Even after gracefully crossing my fortieth birthday, this is one thing which surprises me till date.
Love is the most beautiful human feeling, its equated with God, then why do people do the most heinous things in its name? then they give excuses that every thing is fair in love and war. Well, I never believed in that and never will.
If you look around you you will see people killing, cheating, destroying others in the name of love. Is it love? I don’t believe so. To me love means respecting, honoring your mate. Chosing her happiness before yours.. even if it means her being set free. Under no circumstances does love wants to search his her own pleasure. He may walk away from a person if his love is not returned but he will never harass, disgrace or torture her if she refuses to love him.
I believe a huge majority of human beings call lust love. That is the only confusion. If they search their souls they will realize that they are glorifying their lust or passion.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
silence talks
We often pick up a belief that to prove ourselves we will have to use words. And in case of arguments or debates these words often become harsh and hurting. Sometimes creating irreparable damages in relationships.
In case of your intimate circle you can freely talk, but in case of social or formal circle practicing firm silence is often more useful than openly expressing your views.
When we are a part of an argument then being silent is display of strength, not weakness, and often it can save us from complications.
Suppose you are a staunch honest guy, who wont mind defending it at any cost, but in today’s world it can make you a hated person if you keep on defending honesty in every circle you move.
Practical step will be keeping your belief to yourself and among trusted persons, when in big crowd practice silence, no matter how much you are provoked.
Being silent is too much of an advantage, first, it keeps your thoughts to yourself, hence it cant be used against you. Second it gives you an impression of strength, in your own circle you will observe people respect silent persons more than they respect chatterboxes. Third it cant be used as a trap against you, if you get involved in arguments easily, that can be used against you by a cunning rival, whereas silence will become golden. We all can easliy guess that if I start to list advantages of silence you will fall asleep by the time I finish.
Its best to use words as weapons not boomerang. Open your mouth not to argue but make a statement.
In case of your intimate circle you can freely talk, but in case of social or formal circle practicing firm silence is often more useful than openly expressing your views.
When we are a part of an argument then being silent is display of strength, not weakness, and often it can save us from complications.
Suppose you are a staunch honest guy, who wont mind defending it at any cost, but in today’s world it can make you a hated person if you keep on defending honesty in every circle you move.
Practical step will be keeping your belief to yourself and among trusted persons, when in big crowd practice silence, no matter how much you are provoked.
Being silent is too much of an advantage, first, it keeps your thoughts to yourself, hence it cant be used against you. Second it gives you an impression of strength, in your own circle you will observe people respect silent persons more than they respect chatterboxes. Third it cant be used as a trap against you, if you get involved in arguments easily, that can be used against you by a cunning rival, whereas silence will become golden. We all can easliy guess that if I start to list advantages of silence you will fall asleep by the time I finish.
Its best to use words as weapons not boomerang. Open your mouth not to argue but make a statement.
moulding thoughts
Wise people say we become what we think. With every year added to our mental age we slowly start to realize the truth in these words.
We all have our share of dark days, some times it disperses quickly sometimes it lingers too long. When I was going through such a phase one day I decided that I will mould my thought against dark emotions, make love, peace, harmony and kindness its permanent resident.
I started to work on it slowly, my first goal was to create a reservoir of positive feelings inside me. A reservoir which will not dry up under any circumstances. Now positive feelings too need some thing to hold on, so I zeroed on God. I started to meditate. Just think about God every day without break.
Within two months it started to effect, first went my depression, next anger and frustration. Then slowly peace and affection came back. And stayed. Now I am transformed for better.
In my youth I was extremely unselfish and affectionate but I used to get hurt very easily. Now too I have regained that nature back, but I don’t get hurt when I receive hurt in response to my affection. My regular interaction with God has created that well needed shield.
My mind has successfully started to block all negative thoughts outside my heart and mind sooner or later and bring positive feelings inside.
We all have our share of dark days, some times it disperses quickly sometimes it lingers too long. When I was going through such a phase one day I decided that I will mould my thought against dark emotions, make love, peace, harmony and kindness its permanent resident.
I started to work on it slowly, my first goal was to create a reservoir of positive feelings inside me. A reservoir which will not dry up under any circumstances. Now positive feelings too need some thing to hold on, so I zeroed on God. I started to meditate. Just think about God every day without break.
Within two months it started to effect, first went my depression, next anger and frustration. Then slowly peace and affection came back. And stayed. Now I am transformed for better.
In my youth I was extremely unselfish and affectionate but I used to get hurt very easily. Now too I have regained that nature back, but I don’t get hurt when I receive hurt in response to my affection. My regular interaction with God has created that well needed shield.
My mind has successfully started to block all negative thoughts outside my heart and mind sooner or later and bring positive feelings inside.
Friendship musings
Among all human relationships, the most addictive is most probably friendship. Its most unselfish and fulfilling relationship. Those who have found true friends can vow for it. a normal human being tries to find friend in every one/thing.. human beings, nature, God..
A good friend is the best motivator, who will try to bring out the best in you, will never try to steal the wind beneath your wing, and will never be jealous of you.
Such friends are quite hard to find, in long lessons of life we will see that our friends are the ones who take a pirouette all of a sudden. Suddenly turn into our foe, deadliest foe because they know all about us. There can be 101 reasons, starting from ego to jealousy.
But we cant do without them either.. there are a few things one can practice when among friends, till the day you can blindly trust them, don’t share every thing, specially some dangerous secret.
When you have become extremely intimate, never mistreat your friend. Always give him the due respect he deserves. Remember the golden proverb.. being someone’s friend doesnot gives you right to be abusive towards him, it should be other way round, enemies are enough to be abusive and critical, friends should avoid it.
Friendship is must for a healthy living, but we should always be choosy about friends, because our friends tell a lot about us, and our nature is extremely dependent on the friends we keep and mingle with.
After finding a group of the very best friends that can exist (after meeting some true nightmares for years) I will recommend every one to go for FRIENDSHIP WITH CAUTION and LOVE in your heart.
To love your friend with all your heart but keeping in mind, to never abuse him or hand over your death sentence to him unless he is THAT friend.
A good friend is the best motivator, who will try to bring out the best in you, will never try to steal the wind beneath your wing, and will never be jealous of you.
Such friends are quite hard to find, in long lessons of life we will see that our friends are the ones who take a pirouette all of a sudden. Suddenly turn into our foe, deadliest foe because they know all about us. There can be 101 reasons, starting from ego to jealousy.
But we cant do without them either.. there are a few things one can practice when among friends, till the day you can blindly trust them, don’t share every thing, specially some dangerous secret.
When you have become extremely intimate, never mistreat your friend. Always give him the due respect he deserves. Remember the golden proverb.. being someone’s friend doesnot gives you right to be abusive towards him, it should be other way round, enemies are enough to be abusive and critical, friends should avoid it.
Friendship is must for a healthy living, but we should always be choosy about friends, because our friends tell a lot about us, and our nature is extremely dependent on the friends we keep and mingle with.
After finding a group of the very best friends that can exist (after meeting some true nightmares for years) I will recommend every one to go for FRIENDSHIP WITH CAUTION and LOVE in your heart.
To love your friend with all your heart but keeping in mind, to never abuse him or hand over your death sentence to him unless he is THAT friend.
goodbye hatred
All of us, atleast most of us have faced unjust hostility, enmity or pain from others. Is there a single soul who will say that he has never faced any such situations?
When we face it once or twice its easy to forget. But when we face it time after time slowly our heart hardens. Say for example an extremely beautiful girl faces more than her share of jealousy, hatred and enmity. Does she deserves it? No. Does she likes it? No again.
But if she walks into their provocation and starts to hit them back it will slowly corrupt her nature and people will say that her beauty is only outward.
The best solution is to make herself strong, be so strong that these things don’t make any impact on them. She should be wary of enemies, but should never let them control her life, feelings or emotions. She should be mistress of her own life and leave the decision of punishment on God.
First it wont corrupt her nature, in place of that it will make her a better person. Second, she will control her own life.
Believe me, God’s mill may grind slow, but it grinds sure, and grinds really fine. Its my personal experience, and I have seen it happening too many times.
Never ever let anger, hatred, vengenance or such cruel feelings invade your heart. They are acids, which will slowly erode your heart.
When we face it once or twice its easy to forget. But when we face it time after time slowly our heart hardens. Say for example an extremely beautiful girl faces more than her share of jealousy, hatred and enmity. Does she deserves it? No. Does she likes it? No again.
But if she walks into their provocation and starts to hit them back it will slowly corrupt her nature and people will say that her beauty is only outward.
The best solution is to make herself strong, be so strong that these things don’t make any impact on them. She should be wary of enemies, but should never let them control her life, feelings or emotions. She should be mistress of her own life and leave the decision of punishment on God.
First it wont corrupt her nature, in place of that it will make her a better person. Second, she will control her own life.
Believe me, God’s mill may grind slow, but it grinds sure, and grinds really fine. Its my personal experience, and I have seen it happening too many times.
Never ever let anger, hatred, vengenance or such cruel feelings invade your heart. They are acids, which will slowly erode your heart.
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